2010
November
27

Adult Children Bill of Rights

Posted in: ACoA

I do not have to feel guilty just because someone else does not like what I do, say, think, or feel.

It is OK for me to feel angry and to express it in responsible ways.

I do not have to assume full responsibility for making decisions, particularly where others share responsibility for making the decision.

I have the right to say, “I don’t understand” without feeling stupid or guilty.

I have the right to say “I don’t know”

I have the right to say “no” without feeling guilty.

I do not have to apologize or give reasons when I say no.

I have the right to ask others to do things for me.

I have the right to refuse requests which others make of me.

I have the right to tell others when I think they are manipulating, conning, or treating me unfairly.

I have the right to refuse additional responsibilities without feeling guilty.

I have the right to tell others when their behavior annoys me.

I do not have to compromise my personal integrity.

I have the right to make mistakes and to be responsible for them.

I have the right to be wrong.

I do not have to be liked, admired, or respected by everyone for everything I do.

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2 Responses to “Adult Children Bill of Rights”

  1. Couldnt agree more with that, very attractive article

    • admin says:

      Thank you. These rights apply to everyone – not just those who are children of alcoholic or dysfunctional homes. Guilt is my big one. Saying no is sometimes difficult even now. But it’s good to know that I have the right to say “no.” Makes me feel grounded.

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